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Ep: 172 The Mentality Makeover with the “Money Manifesting Queen” Amanda Frances

We are often told that one of the quickest ways to launch your business is through a course or a mastermind. We are constantly bombarded with sales pages and funnels that follow us while we browse online. You would assume that this model is the only way to success, since it’s so highly advertised, but there is another way.

This week on the Unconventional Life Show is the “Money Manifestation Queen”, Amanda Frances. Amanda is a self-made multimillionaire, digital course creator, Forbes contributor, podcaster, and spiritual business mentor.

Amanda shares how she made millions by breaking all the rules. She didn’t follow a rigid plan, instead, she got clear on what she wanted, aligned herself with the positive vibration of her beliefs and shared what truly ignites her soul with the world.

Tip #1: Everything revolves around your deeper desire

Be honest with yourself, and ask “what do you really want out of life?”. Your desire can range drastically, from something as tangible as wanting more money, to something more intangible like becoming more peaceful. Even if you don’t know how you are going to attain it, with persistence, you can achieve anything you desire.

Amanda tributes her success towards tapping into her core desires and doing what she truly wants rather than what conventional society has taught her to do.

“So I always ask the question, “what would you like to do if money were no object? How would you really enjoy spending your life?”

“If you say that getting the money is the most important thing, you will spend your life completely wasting your time. You’ll be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living, that is to go on doing things you don’t like doing, which is stupid. Better to have a short life that is full of what you like doing than a long life spent in a miserable way. And after all, if you do really like what you’re doing, it doesn’t matter what it is, you can eventually turn it- you could eventually become a master of it. It’s the only way to become a master of something, to be really with it. And then you’ll be able to get a good feel for whatever it is. So don’t worry too much.”

Once you allow your deeper desires to come to the surface is when the game really begins. This acknowledgment can be double-sided. On one hand, the desire is waiting to break free and is saying, “bring it on!”. On the other hand, we have the mind creating stories as to why you are not ready yet and many other limiting beliefs that pile up and block our path.

“You can’t unlearn it – Once you told yourself, oh shit, I actually want to be doing this with my life, you know, and you are responsible for it and you can’t unknow it”

Tip #2 How to identify and blow up limiting beliefs

The human brain is fascinating but it can also play tricks on you. There is a bundle of nerves in your brain stem called the Reticular Activating System. This system seeks information that validates your beliefs. It filters your world through the parameters that you set for yourself, and your beliefs shape those parameters.

If you don’t believe you can have it or you don’t feel that you are good enough, your brain will present to you situations that validate this thought. All without you knowing!

A way to identify if you are creating positive and healthy boundaries for yourself is simple. Any thought that doesn’t feel good or causes you to feel constricted simply isn’t true. Anything that feels exciting and expansive is true.

It’s your job to identify and tune into beliefs that feel good, are positive, and resonate deeply. If you practice vibrating at the frequency of that thought, you are presented with the people, opportunities, and information needed to achieve what we desire. Scientifically put, we are magical beings.

A positive belief that Amanda has around money is that “the more money she has the more good she can do on this earth.” She can support organizations, shop local and organic and employ people in a fair and equal way. She isn’t living in financial restriction and that opens her up to “a level of freedom where she can focus on things that are useful for the world rather than worrying about her income.”

“There are tons of roles and constructs around money in the physical plane, and she doesn’t choose to live in paradigms around money that don’t serve her. “She merges her unconscious thoughts into conscious thoughts and shapes her external outcome.

Tip # 3 Take pivots instead of leaps

So we’re now on a great track to really create positive change in our life. We’ve identified what we want, blown up any limiting beliefs and now ready to hop off the fence and take action.

Most people think that bigger is better, and while this is a great theory in some instances it might not work when you are starting to find your ground.

Amanda’s secret ingredient here is to get really good at pivoting. At first, it may not feel like you are moving anywhere but you are exploring all angles before taking a step. This reduces the chance of taking one big leap in a less than ideal direction.

When you learn to rework your mind and energy around your core desires, you set new laws and patterns in motion for you. Your relationship to your desires and any future business success takes spiritual maintenance, reflection, and clarity.

Other Free recommended resources from Amanda. Find her on Facebook, twitter, Instagram and tumbler @xoamandafrances

Spiritual Boss Lady Meditation & Money Mentality Makeover

April 29, 2019
Ep. 171 – 4 Ways to Become Comfortable with Taking Imperfect Action, with Hilary Jastram

There have definitely been moments that I have scrolled through a social media platform and had an overwhelming emotion of not feeling good enough. Recently, I have noticed a difference in the content that is being published. This new content is leaving me feeling inspired rather than questioning my worth.

There are a few key influencers that are highlighting their imperfections rather than posting a version of themselves that is polished and perfect. Their popularity is skyrocketing and they are getting more views the ever, but why? The raw, reactive and unplanned content is desirable because it is more relatable.

It’s 2019, people are craving more. We want to see your story of how failures actually led to your success, the number of attempts and ferocity it took to arrive where you are at today. We are so over a photo showing a photoshopped body and the view from your villa. We want to be taught something new, to see your humanness and vulnerability.

I know it may not be easy to share this vulnerable part of yourself with the world, but I can guarantee that the authentic version of you has value and should be shared with the world.

This week on the Unconventional Life Podcast is Hilary L. Jastram. Hilary shares her journey and insight around imperfect action. She gives us 4 techniques that can be used to expand our comfort zone and ditch the certainty and perfectionism that hold us back.

Hilary is the founder of Sick Biz, “An organization dedicated to providing support, resources, hacks, and hope to entrepreneurs affected by chronic illness, pain, disability, and sickness.” She is also the founder of J. Hill Marketing & Creative Services, an agency specializing in premier copywriting and book editing for Fortune 500 brands and the “one-percent,” superstar entrepreneurs. She is an author, editor at The Good Men Project, and contributor to Influencive, The Huffington Post and The Mighty, among other large-scale publications.

1.The law of motion

According to Newton’s Law of Motion, an object in motion will stay in motion. This directly applies to taking action. Inspiration is not a prerequisite to start, but rather something that will naturally occur once you start spinning your wheels. Inspiration flourishes through action, so stop overthinking and just start sharing your ideas with the world!

You are your worst critic and Hilary says that “the only person creating labels and boxes around you is yourself.” Someone who never buys a paint set because they “aren’t a painter” will never become one. Every “master” has once been a beginner. It always takes the first bold step to set yourself in motion towards your destiny. “We all have the same gifts, it’s just a matter of who is practicing them.”

So lets get painting!

2. We are never done learning and the best way to solidify what we have learned is to teach someone else.

The world is constantly turning, and the pace of change and development is accelerating exponentially. “ Learning is a huge goal that we can never let go of because the minute we say we are done learning we become very presumptuous”

The most noticeable area of advancement in our society is undoubtedly in the realm of technology. We now carry a connection to the world and an infinite supply of information in the palm of our hands at all times of the day, so why not use it to our advantage?

From what you’ve learned, share your experience, opinion, and voice, without a filter. You don’t need to be a professional to get your message across, nor have a professional set-up. Your phone is your link to the world and making a drastic impact. Feel empowered to use it as a tool to spread your message!

For example, someone could be inspired by your advocacy for the planet and join your #noplastic challenge only because they saw you talking about it in your feed. Even if you are not a big influencer with 100k followers, there is still a massive impact and butterfly effect created from you doing you!

“ we are multifaceted diamonds, all of us, and we get to be “experts” in different things in our lives”

3. There’s no such thing as a block, only self judgment.

When Hilary encounters some type of blockage or can’t express idea she interprets this as “sign from the universe to go inward, be calm and listen” This is a great reminder that you don’t have to be hustling at every moment in order to be successful. Listening and reflection are a part of the progression that leads to success. “You may think you are stuck, but you are right where you are meant to be. When you get up and running again you are more prepared for the next step.”

We all get creatively stuck at times, navigating our way through this maze is a part of the process. Another key to finding your way out of this maze is your mindset. It is unlikely that good ideas are going to come flooding to you when you’re telling yourself that you are not good enough. How you treat yourself when you are feeling frustrated will determine the overall outcome. If you allow yourself to be freely, authentically you, the emotions will pass and naturally new waves of inspiration will come. Give it time, sometimes it takes patience.

4. Build an environment where you are allowed to mess up.

Hillary reminds us that humans are addicted to certainty and perfection. This limits us from evolving into the unknown since we are pre-programmed to want to know the outcome and to avoid mistakes. This reduces our ability to take risks, creative leaps or to try on something out of character. “Throughout your process, remember, you are allowed to mess up.” Forgiveness for your “mistakes” should become an automatic response. You know when you have done your absolute best, so get in touch with that honest part of your being that forgives” yourself for being messy and imperfectly perfect.

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April 22, 2019
Ep.170 Embracing Extraordinary Discomfort and Surrendering to Something Greater than Yourself with Singer, Songwriter, Ayla Nereo

Let Go of How You Think Life Should Look

Ayla’s musical career has asked her to surrender her agenda countless times over. She consistently found herself trying to force something to happen, wanting her life to look a certain way instead of allowing life to surprise her in mysterious ways. Trying and working so hard while seeing a vision that was much bigger than the perception of her immediate reality created an immeasurable disconnect as she began her musical career. In Ayla’s case, the paradox of her journey was being simultaneously fearful yet desiring of being seen.

It can be easy to get caught up in the myriad of ways a certain career path should or could look. When you compare yourself to others, there’s a chance you might feel disappointed or discouraged when you’re beginning something new. Like Ayla, learning to let go of control will allow something better than you likely could have imagined. The brain can only perceive a set amount of possibilities and it is usually the ones just outside of immediate thinking that are wanting to make their way into your life. What if you danced with life instead of playing tug-of-war it?

Seek Out Your Fears

It required pushing through an extraordinary amount of fear for Ayla to get on stage and sing after being in a recording studio. She shares, “every step of the way all those things I could have just said I’m not going to perform, sing, do this…” but, for whatever reason, something continued to propel her through this discomfort. By facing her fears she learned how to shift her perspective and embrace new ways of being for her performances.

If you’re standing on the shores of your comfort zone looking out into the sea of your fears, there’s a strong likelihood that those treacherous waves look a whole lot bigger than they actually are. It’s all about riding the waves that come with trying out something new and learning how to sail smoothly. Perhaps it’s scary at first, but with commitment and practice the ride gets easier and you’ll learn to find your flow and fluidity.

Don’t Turn Back, Carry On

It wasn’t until Ayla started playing the loop pedal that she actually made money on tour. It was a big turning point in her life that asked her to make some sacrifices to rightfully claim her position as a full-time musician. Her sacrifices included living out of an extremely cheap, tiny room and scraping by for a bit. It was not an immediately glamorous lifestyle, but it freed up the energy to live her calling.

When faced with the choice of giving it all to our passion or say staying in a comfortable job, it can be extremely enticing to stay put and ignore the voice that begs you to listen. But, you were put on this planet for a very specific reason and by not following that voice you are doing a disservice to the gifts that only you were given. Wherever you find yourself envious or longing for something different, pay attention. Notice the patterns that consistently play out in your life and take note of the things that draw your attention. Life speaks volumes to those that are paying attention.

April 15, 2019
Ep.169 How to Rise Up to Every Moment, With Yogi, Chelsey Korus
Chelsey Korus is a trailblazer and is a highly regarded yoga teacher and philosopher. She has been teaching yoga since the age of 15 and has been an avid life long learner in numerous movement practices, including Anusara, Power Vinyasa, Ashtanga, Acro, as well as martial arts, free form dance, and ballet. Along with an exceptional depth of practice, Chelsey is a triple major with degrees in Dance, Theater, and Vocal Performance.

A decade of learning and teaching around the world has led her to design, AWAKE, a “total package lifestyle” around SOUL ☀︎ SPIRIT ☀︎ ENVIRONMENT.

“The concept of AWAKE is a driving force in my life… I don’t want to live another second asleep. These are the practices I’ve designed to help people awaken to their moment, and have the tools to step into their wholeness.”

The soul is the deep dive into who you really are, into your soul gifts and what you can share with the world.  This connection to yourself can be cultivated in numerous ways but for Chelsey, the deepest is through a Traditional Yoga and Meditation practice. “When you commit to arriving on the mat, every single day, and observing what is within there is a profound shift that emerges from your being.” From this zoomed out perspective and witnessing your noticing, you gain new insights and ideas and are guided to your best next steps. It’s important to remember that this knowledge doesn’t come from an outside source, this inner knowing comes from your soul and everyone has access to this intuition.

“ There is a river that is always rushing with creativity and generative ideas, we get removed and forget that it’s there and we need to get into the cold water to be refreshed and remember what is within.”

Another way that you can tune into this rhythm of inner knowing is through a journaling practice called Morning Pages – write three freeflow pages, first thing when you wake up. This uncensored way of journaling quiets the mind and allows your subconscious to come through. When you really let go and stop judging what comes out, you will be amazed how many insights will appear on your page.

Spirit is your connection to something bigger than yourself and a sense that you belong to something bigger Eg. Acro Yoga, groups or socials. A community is a place that we can receive acknowledgment, and reflection from our peers. We need people around us that say “Hey, I see you, do you know where you have been and where you are now?! You’re doing an amazing job” this feedback encourages us to keep going and shines a brighter light on our gifts because the truth is that our worst critic is usually ourselves.

“We all have this really cool spot to fill in the web of life that is our own but this web is interconnected.”

You might be wondering how to get involved in a community, where do you start? Write down 3 or 4 areas of interest, then search for events or groups on Facebook or Meet Up’s that match your interests. If you can’t find anything that resonates I encourage you to start the community or group up yourself! Guaranteed that other people share similar interests as you.

The part that you can change and control is your Environment. Everything in your life is an accumulation of the choices you make and the people you surround yourself with. It’s up to you to set healthy boundaries, make choices that support your growth and find mentors that inspire and encourage you to rise up.

Chelsey is a big nature lover and hosts beach and river clean up’s at many of the festivals she teaches at. She has also created the earth challenge #awakeafearthchallenge, which supports plastic-free living and caring for the Ocean.

“We affect each other- our thoughts, words, and actions really matter, we are creating a future for other generations.”

These three pillars are the framework for AWAKE but sometimes life doesn’t flow exactly as planned or in our desired direction.

We asked Chelsey how she keeps positive and grounded when life serves a crap cupcake or when the shitake hits the pan…
- Be in nature, be mesmerized by her beauty and resilience, because you too have those same qualities.
- Take your time to experience grief. See grief as a teacher, welcome grief in to provide you with clarity so you can know and trust your definite “yes” and “no”.
- Be courageous and step out into the wild night and the unknown.
- You don’t have to go through anything alone, surround yourself with a community or someone that can hold space for you and listen.
- Have compassion for yourself. See and hear the voices that are speaking- the future self that protects, the teenager that is rebellious, the small 6-year-old self that is fearful, hear all these voices speaking and witness them. The more you have this relationship to yourself from a compassionate place you can say “ I know where that’s coming from but that thought is too small for me, I’m not subscribing to that idea anymore. I’m going to go bigger, I’m going to play bigger.”
- It’s only hard right now and it’s going to get easier cus life doesn’t get easier, you get stronger.
Chelsey’s knowledge and perspective on life are truly beautiful. No matter if you are experiencing grief or already walking the path, she shares insightful tips on how you can continue to refine and rise up to your greatest self.

If you would like to meet Chelsey and experience her infectious joy you can join one of her adventures here! She is teaching at the Wanderlust 108 events and has some spectacular retreats coming up in Greece, Wyoming, and Bali. For a daily dose of inspiration, you can follow her on Instagram.

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April 8, 2019
EP: 168 How to Play Full Out, Take Risks and Reap Rewards with High Performance Coach, David Wood

At the peak of his business, David had just released his book, Get Paid For Who You Are, and was burnt out, tired, and depressed. During this stressful time, he asked himself what he’d do if he had six months to live. The conclusion was to spend more time in Bali, which would ultimately shift the course of his life as he sold everything, subleased a Balinese villa, and resigned from the Transformational Leadership Council.

Only too soon, David had to leave the country after issues with housing surfaced. And once again he found himself wondering what would be next. Should he go back to coaching? Would he build another business? What mattered to him now?

Here are 3 lessons from David’s leap of faith:

Doubt is Part of the Process, Embrace it. David wants you to know that it’s ok to have doubts when you don’t know how life is going to look. In fact, he shares it’s a natural function of the brain to have doubts and to want to control outcomes when we’re exploring unknown territory. It’s less about how much doubt you will or won’t feel and more about how you take action when those doubts are distracting you from your potential.

If you’re in a downward spiral of doubt and fear, there’s likely a voice inside of you that really wants to know the answers to feel safe and secure. There’s nothing wrong with this aspect of you. It’s actually a process that sometimes serves a magnificent function — protecting you from danger. But sometimes that function works overtime and can distract you from delivering your best. How you go about changing your day will vary from person to person, but the best you can do is allow yourself the space to not know the answers and keep moving and grooving.

Have Faith in Your Risk Taking. According to David, it takes some simple faith to keep taking risks, especially when it comes to business. He sees this pattern in many where life seems to get harder before it gets easier, almost as if it’s testing you through the dips. It takes faith to keep putting in the time while seeing little return but as you stay focused others will likely start to see that you’re serious about what you’re up to.

As you go through the ups and downs, you can switch up your strategy and refine your process, but keep taking consistent action. While David suggests this mindset, he also recommends continuously discerning whether or not your efforts are providing real value to people or if they need some reevaluating. Keep going to reap the rewards, and hopefully, when it rains it pours.

Share Your Solutions to Reinforce Relationships. Each iteration of David’s career has seemingly angled him closer to what really lights him up while continuing to be the best allocation of his time, energy and talent. When David first got started, he created a newsletter that ultimately attracted a high performing audience of 150,000. This information sharing model created the foundation that set him up to easily share free solutions, while simultaneously building a network of followers that had a solid sense of who he was.

Building rapport with your clientele is helpful in gaining trust and interest in your offerings. Whether it’s a consistent stream of articles, podcasts, or other forms of content, providing your audience with value will sow seeds that you can reap the benefits from.

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Amelia Broughton is a relational facilitator, writer, and purveyor of connection, pioneering a more connected, communication-savvy, and emotionally intelligent planet. She has facilitated Authentic Relating and Relational Leadership in a 9-month training named T3 (Train the Trainer), in workshops with companies such as Authentic World, Authentic Revolution, and Authentic Relating Training International, around the world in communities such as Unconventional Life and Momentom Collective, and in the past year has facilitated monthly events at Archipelago Clubs in Denver, CO.

Amelia’s writing has been featured on mindbodygreen, in Conscious Lifestyle Magazine, Boulder Lifestyle Magazine, and The C3 Method. An active Unconventional Life member, Amelia consistently contributes her writing.

April 1, 2019