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  • Ep 223: Do You Like What You See When You Look in the Mirror? w/ Amilya Antonetti

    Ep 223: Do You Like What You See When You Look in the Mirror? w/ Amilya Antonetti

    “Social media is such bullshit”, says Amilya Antonetti frankly when speaking about the facades people are posting. This fierce and fiery human behaviorist, turn-around expert, and entrepreneur gives it to us straight with no lace and frills. Founder of the company now known as “Greenworks”, Amylia has built and sold 19 companies. Amilya states that being an entrepreneur requires people to make sacrifices, fail and change what you’re doing, get back up and try again, and again, and again. She is a businesswoman on a mission.

    Direct and to the point, Amilya shares with Unconventional Life her suggestions for people during this co-vid time. She hopes that each person takes the time to re-evaluate their lives and offers a simple exercise that will help listeners to identify their purpose.

    Amylia’s success was built from the ground up. She started with something as simple as homemade household products. When she launched in the ’80s no major companies were producing products under the eco-friendly model. The result: her child was reacting to the chemical products in her home.

    Amylia’s business success story started with homemade soap. It was the allergic reactions of her young son that inspired her beginnings into business. With no idea what she was doing, she accidentally entered into the 190 billion dollar household products industry, revolutionizing it with the introduction of green solutions. She describes this shift as looking at business differently from the old model.

    According to her most current business building resources and schools teach a stockholder focused, hierarchical down structure that excludes customers. In her words, “people cannot be expendable”. The old way of business doesn’t work. The old way of working 20-30 years for a pension and then choosing to live your dream isn’t working. She’s been learning from the millennials and generation alpha with whom she works and mentors. Amilya is determined to bring people into the understanding of who they are, what their “why” is and help them to develop their business around that.

    Amylia isn’t afraid to tell entrepreneurs one simple fact. When developing your business and it doesn’t work, you learn and grow and pivot and learn and grow and pivot until you find your fit. It’s okay to change, and try another change, and change one more thing and change again. Making mistakes is an inherent part of the process. Her approach to success requires breaking the old conventional mold of business and requires people to re-evaluate their personal operating systems.

    “What have you learned about your reflection? Look at who you were just a moment ago and what about you doesn’t work for you any longer?”

    In this time of global change, Amylia is asking entrepreneurs to rethink their current life. Maybe you’re giving your talents away to a job that doesn’t appreciate them, maybe you want to be homeschooling but aren’t, maybe you want to cut down on your daily commute. The increased time at home in social isolation has given each individual a chance to do things they enjoy doing. She urges each person to grasp this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to reconfigure priorities and change the parts of their lives that aren’t working.

    Think. Plan. Execute.

    Successful people don’t just walk aimlessly into their next idea, they’re pre-meditative. They spend some time thinking about it before they take their first step. Amilya beckons each person to take some time to ask: Who am I? Do I like who I see when I look in the mirror?

    The entire world is ready for a new conversation and you’re invited to the table.

    Stop Putting Into The World What Isn’t Important – An Exercise

    List the 10 people who have the most influence in your life. These are those you rely on for information (ex. Mother, Father, teacher, friend, colleague)
    Name the #1 reason you think these people are friends with you
    Send an email to those 10 people and ask them, “why do you have me in your life?”

    This exercise helps people to discover their “why” and identify the one thing others rely on you for. What purpose you serve and what you bring to others’ lives. This, according to Amylia, will help you to stop putting into the world what isn’t important. Now, let go of what you think you “should” be doing and start living your purpose.

    “The more clear you get on what key you’re giving to others that they’re relying on you for, what are you unlocking for them…there’s your business.”

    Know what service you provide to those around you. Offer that gift to the world more widely and most importantly, be okay with being different.

    Giveaway
    Amilya Antonetti & Lisa Thomas (last week’s UL podcast guest) have developed a 5-week program to help individuals release trauma, patterns, and habits that no longer serve them. One lucky listener will win a spot in this 5 week program. You can apply to win here, a winner will be announced next week.

    Connect with Amylia
    Visit her website here 
    Twitter handle : @amilya
    Instagram handle: @amilya_antonetti

    This article was written by Olenka Toroshenko

  • Ep 222: The Simple Reasons Why Intimate Relationships Fail Over and Over with Alison Armstrong

    Ep 222: The Simple Reasons Why Intimate Relationships Fail Over and Over with Alison Armstrong

    Let’s face it, relationships aren’t easy. A fruitful partnership takes work and it can seem impossible when you find yourself in a futile disagreement over whose turn it is to do the laundry or what’s for dinner. It’s not what you had envisioned for yourself, nor the way you intend to speak to your partner. It happens to most and it makes no logical sense (since when are emotions logical?). The culprit: unspoken expectations.

    Managing expectations, knowing how to ask for what you need, finding the right words to communicate your needs, and altering your life to make space for the kind of relationship you’re looking for is what this week’s Unconventional Life guest does professionally.

    Best selling author, speaker, thought-leader, and PAX community creator, Alison Armstrong, has spent the last 30 years researching what destroys, makes and builds partnerships.

    What is the difference between a relationship and a partnership? Although often used interchangeably, Alison explains these two terms as two very different things.

    Relationships are most often defined by expectations. Most often unspoken, expectations are what we think should happen, what we feel entitled to, and what we often have never considered needs verbalizing to our partners. It is when these unspoken expectations are not met that arguments can occur. Generally, one’s understanding of how a relationship is going is based upon how one feels their needs are being met and how well they feel they are meeting their partners’ needs. Again, this is almost always a completely unspoken experience. Most relationships are doomed by “don’t ask, don’t tell”.

    Partnerships, on the other hand, are created, formed, and built on accountability. As Alison states, count-on-ability. What she means is a discussed agreement by which each person vocalizes their needs, wants, and requests. Each partner is to bring a set of needs or wants to the table. These needs and wants are discussed and an agreement is made on the things each party is or is not willing to do. No questioning, no guessing, and no unspoken expectations. If a request has never been made, there are no grounds for disappointment. One of the definitions of partnership is being on the same team.

    Stay Awake

    If you are not present with your relationship, and I mean really present with it, it will not survive. Simple. It must be a priority. It must be tended to regularly. The relationship can’t just stay alive without all parties present. You and your presence with the relationship are what sustains it.

    There are two key factors that, when intersected, dictate your ability to have a successful life, a successful relationship, and to remain present for it all. It is what you do with these two factors that tell the story of your life.

    1. Time, How do you spend your time?
    2. Energy, How do you spend your energy?

    Energy includes money. After all it’s your life force and your time that you exchange for money, isn’t it? Oh, and worry. Worry spends both time and energy. If you want to change your life, then change how you spend these two factors. By using the word spend, a choice is implied. You choose how you spend your time and you choose how you spend your energy. Don’t like how your life is going? Make a change.

    “Changing one’s life is not complicated. We think it is complicated, but it’s not, it’s just time and energy. And you could change it a little bit at a time and have a huge effect.”

    Alison states the importance of women knowing that men are much more aware of how much time they spend caring for something. Caring is a huge expenditure of energy and men are typically much more aware of this expenditure of energy.

    Honor Yourself or All is Lost

    Fundamentally, if you don’t know yourself, how can another? When we don’t know why we do the things we do (and you have to know there’s a reason for it) we find ourselves in the position of not having the language to identify, ask for, nor get our needs met. From this position, it’s an uphill battle.

    “Treating myself like a precious object will make me strong”
    -Julia Cameron (The Artist’s Way)

    It is crucial that we treat ourselves with compassion and respect. We will never let anyone treat us better than we treat ourselves and if we don’t show them how to do it, they won’t have a model for how to treat you.

    “Self-knowledge. Until we know ourselves, until we understand ourselves, until we accept what we discover about ourselves, we won’t have boundaries in the right places. We will tolerate being criticized for things that we should never allow, or it’s not good for us to ever allow, and we can’t be our own best advocates.”

    Get in Touch with Alison

    Your Source for Understanding Men and Women – Alison Armstrong

    “Alison Armstrong is the real deal. I don’t know anyone else who understands men and women the way that Alison does. She has directly impacted my life and helped me take my relationship from awesome to OUTSTANDING! I love her so much!”

    Your Source for Understanding Men and Women – Alison Armstrong

    “Alison Armstrong is the real deal. I don’t know anyone else who understands men and women the way that Alison does. She has directly impacted my life and helped me take my relationship from awesome to OUTSTANDING! I love her so much!”

    This article was written by Olenka Toroshenko

  • Ep 221 : Epigenetics & Repatterning the Brain with Lisa Thomas

    Ep 221 : Epigenetics & Repatterning the Brain with Lisa Thomas

    We all are an elaborate tapestry of the inherited DNA of our ancestors. Blue eyes, olive skin, ginger hair; all traits that have come from our forebears. That being said, we don’t typically include over-eating, fear of financial success, anxiety around being noticed in public, or complications with submitting assignments as our inheritance as well.

    This week, Unconventional Life spoke with transformational leader, gifted healer, and intuitive coach Lisa Thomas. Lisa was incredibly generous in offering practical tools, affirmations, and meditations for eliminating the invisible blocks that bind us.

    Afraid of spiders and don’t know why? Can’t understand why you binge eat in secret?

    Lisa works with epigenetics, inherited DNA, and inherited traumas that affect the manner in which people live their lives. She explains these illogical tendencies as based on the life experiences of our ancestors that can show up unannounced in our lives. Carrying these seemingly unexplainable tendencies in our bloodlines, people can unknowingly replay patterns from their family’s past. Lisa explains the deep patterns of scarcity within our society as a genetic hangover from the great depression.

    Still dating the same “type” that ends the same way repeatedly? Can’t seem to stop a destructive communication pattern every time you visit your parents? Always get sick the day before you go on holiday?

    This is not bad karma. This is not wrongdoing by an ancestor. Lisa explains, “our subconscious knows everything about us and I really believe that the subconscious, which is also called the ego-mind really, gets a bad rap because really the ego is trying to support us”. The subconscious mind attempts to protect us, without knowing truth from life.

    Enter Lisa.

    Repatterning with the power of words

    According to Lisa, every word in the dictionary has a vibration. When we think certain words, our vibration shifts. In this way, words carry a power that translates into our physical experience of the world. The constant berated self-talk can be gruesome. Lisa offered a technique for shifting the internal dialogues. 

    “There is a power to speaking out loud, by the way, and I’ll tell you why. It activates the neuro pathways in your brain. It gets you out of that subconscious, you have to hear yourself…when you have [a] negative thought, you have to call it out and this is what you say. Cancel, cancel, only love is spoken here. Cancel, cancel only love is spoken here.”

    This technique will disrupt the pattern. The brain will stop talking in that way when it realizes it’s not love and, over time new neural pathways will be forged. Our hopes and dreams can manifest when patterns are released from our bloodlines.

    Empathic vs. Clairsentient

    Conversations around spirit and energy can get muddy when definitions vary. Let’s get on the same page, shall we?

    Empaths:

    They can often feel overwhelmed by being in large groups of people. They can feel others and often take it on as their own. It could be said that they “carry the life burdens of other people.” For example, an empath can watch the news and identify with what’s going on. It is important to identify when a feeling is yours and when it’s not.

    A quick tip: When you’re energy drops, stop and ask yourself, is this mine or someone else’s? 

    Clairsentient:

    Someone who senses and understands the feelings of others but doesn’t own it. They can see if from the bird’s eye view. 

    *Note: These two gifts are not mutually exclusive

    “To those who are empaths and those who feel that they have spiritual gifts right now, this is your time. And, if you feel like you’re a healer and you want to take a step in that direction, I really want to encourage you to do it.”

    👉Listen to the full podcast for:

    • verbal techniques with affirmations for repatterning negative self-talk
    • step-by-step instructions on how to clear your energy as an empath
    • a guided meditation on releasing limitations

    Giveaway!

    Lisa is generously giving away “The Money Accelerator Series” 30-day program to one lucky listener. She will also be offering this series at a reduced price for all listeners (usually $500 USD, down to $197 USD). You can apply to win here, a winner will be announced next week.

    Connect with Lisa

    By heading over to her website. Lisa offers free meditation and affirmations here 

    This article was written by Olenka Toroshenko

  • Ep 220: Rehabilitate Your Relationship to Food with The Natural Nutritionist, Steph Lowe

    Ep 220: Rehabilitate Your Relationship to Food with The Natural Nutritionist, Steph Lowe

    The revolution starts with eating real food. What do you mean, real food? In this week’s episode of The Unconventional Life, we spoke with the myth-busting, unconventional Natural Nutritionist, Steph Lowe who shares her approach to the radical food revolution. Not the advice of your average government-funded nutritionist, Steph brings her wisdom of how to rehabilitate your relationship with food straight to the table.

    The nutrition dogma of the past decade was no-fat/low-fat. The nutrition dogma of this decade is no-carb/low carb. For over 10 years, Steph has been trailblazing and myth-busting her way through the nutritional scene, deviating from the rhetoric of the mainstream with her unconventional teachings of a different way of relating to food.

    With clarity and simple steps, Steph explains her approach to JERF (just eat real food), the LCHF (low carb high fat), and how the emotional state of mind you approach your food with changes everything about your health.

    “JERF” Just Eat Real Food

     Real food is whole food. The definition of whole foods put simply means they

    • Comes out of the ground
    • Off a tree
    • From an animal (this being your ethical/dietary choice)

    Essentially, the lower the degree of human interference with the food that we eat, the higher the nutrient density. This is real food. When humans interfere with the process of food, we create a product, not a food. 

    “…a  lot of our health issues could have been avoided had we stuck with the diets of our great grandparents”. 

    By ensuring that what you eat is whole, real food, foods that are anti-inflammatory in nature, and by switching your body over into the natural fat-burning space we move away from the societal normalization of gas, bloating and IBS (irritable bowel syndrome). 

    These symptoms are so common and so normalized within our culture. Steph knows from experience that it doesn’t have to be this way. 

    Where to start? Breakfast.

    You’ve heard it all your life for a reason! Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. 

    The first meal you eat in the day sets the precedent for your metabolism and digestion. Steph warns that eating refined carbohydrates and sugar (toast, cereal, etc.) for breakfast sets up your blood sugar to the relentless wheel of craving sugar all day long. It also guarantees you’ll experience the 3:00 PM slump and encourages bad habits like drinking coffee to “get you through the slump”, a midday nap, or feeding the sugar craving with unhealthy snacks. Starting your day with real food ensures you continue making better choices throughout the day.

    Breakfast should be rich in plants, proteins, and healthy fats. This helps to control your blood sugar first thing.

    “Almost everyone can’t quite understand how to eat vegetables for breakfast. That’s quite a shock, quite a process to change a lifelong habit of what you’ve been fed as a child.”
    The greatest unspoken aspect to the digestive struggle: how we relate to our food.

    As Steph phrased it, “one of the oldest sayings in the nutrition space is you are what you eat, but we have to reframe that because you are what you digest and absorb. You might be eating all of the most incredible produce in the world, but if you’re not eating properly and if you’re not able to digest and absorb that food, then you can have any host of symptoms, including long-term nutrient deficiencies”. Food habits and food behaviors can change if we can actually make it a priority”.

    Step 1: Acknowledge how we eat

    The majority of people are “sympathetic dominant” meaning we are busy, stressed, and juggling a lot. This is likely the emotional state we are in when we eat. In 2020, most people have lost the ability to make food a priority. It is vital that we enter a parasympathetic state when we’re eating known as “rest and digest”. 

    Step 2: Schedule preparing and eating food into a daily routine as you would a meeting

    Literally make space and allocate time to making food a priority in your life. Consider in advance the time it will take to be present with your food. Before eating, take some deep breaths (this will help signal a parasympathetic nervous system response), say a few words with your food in front of you rather than inhaling it, smell your food and give your digestive enzymes time to activate. Eating mindfully! This means no devices, TV, phone calls, or distractions. Be present with your food. Chew 20 times. 20 times?! Yes, 20 times. Your digestive system needs time to function properly, give it that time. Did we already mention no distractions? 

    Step 3: Cook once, eat twice

    When you prepare dinner, cook twice as much so you have a packed lunch for tomorrow. It’s a simple step that saves you from making those bad choices when you’re on the go. 

    Immunity, your gut & coronavirus

    80% of your immune system is located in your gut. Start by eating real food. Ensure you’re incorporating foods that are high in vitamin C (bell peppers, broccoli, citrus fruits, berries) and zinc (grass-fed lamb or beef, pumpkin seeds, dark leafy greens) into your diet. These are immune boosters. Keep your gut healthy with regular consumption of natural probiotics (ferments like sauerkraut or fermented beets, etc.). Get your vitamin D from being in the sun. Smaller quantities of vitamin D can be derived from eating eggs, fish, and fatty cod. The key to good immunity is nervous system support with lifestyle choices like yoga and breathwork as well as dietary aids like medicinal mushrooms (reishi) and ashwagandha.

    Giveaway!

    Steph is generously offering one listener a free copy of her low carb reset pack. Learn about how to eat whole foods, feel great doing it, and get rid of sugar cravings once and for all. This is a 2-week program designed to teach you how to move into a long-term strategy by shifting your metabolism into an anti-inflammatory, fat-burning phase. The program will give you insight into week 3, 4, and beyond. 

    Connect with Steph

    By heading over to her website or Instagram. Steph is also offering a free complimentary 15 min consultation.

    This article was written by Olenka Toroshenko

  • Ep 217: Accelerate Your Growth Mindset With These Tips From CEO of Mindset Experts, Joe Trodden

    Ep 217: Accelerate Your Growth Mindset With These Tips From CEO of Mindset Experts, Joe Trodden

    “Mindset” has certainly moved into the forefront of popular culture in today’s day and age, with many people advocating for mental health and the ability to totally take control of your own life via your thought processes. The definition seems to differ based on schools of thought and perceptions – to some ‘mindset’ is maintaining a positive attitude towards life. To others, it is a deeply personal inquiry into why they function and perceive the world in a certain way.

    Indeed, mindset has become a buzzword; splashed all over Instagram accounts worldwide and a trending topic among speakers and entrepreneurs.

    But what does ‘mindset’ actually deal with and how can we use it to our advantage? How can we create a ‘better’ mindset?

    To Joe Trodden, who we caught up with on our latest podcast episode, mindset is the biggest factor of success in entrepreneurs. “Mindset for me is everything – your full cognitive function. It’s not just a positive mental attitude, it’s everything that’s going on inside your head.”

    Joe is the mindset king – founder of Mindset Experts and has personally coached over 300 entrepreneurs over the past few years to figure out what their exact strategy to scale is.

    According to Joe, “we are born with predispositions to particular ways of thinking and that’s part of what mindset is all about… when you understand your approach to life then you can understand and appreciate other people’s approaches much more… when you find what your groove is… how you think… understanding yourself at that level is what mindset means to me.”

    We asked Joe to give us some tips on how to start a mindset overhaul for someone who has never really delved into this topic before.

    Open the door

    According to Joe, most people have never even stopped to reflect on their cognitive style, their personality type or why they behave the way they do. “At the base level a lot of people are not ever even asked those questions… people have not thought in any depth about their particular thinking style… their mission on this planet…”

    The first step is simply opening an honest and open inquiry and starting to ask yourself some questions about yourself, how you think, what your personality strengths and weaknesses are.

    Do some personality tests online and see what you learn about yourself. Ask yourself; who am I? How do I perceive the world? What archetype does my personality and way of thinking fall under? Myers-Briggs is a great place to start, Human Design for those of you who are also into astrology and Carl Jung’s archetypes.

     Get clear on your mission

    Once you’ve established your current mindset, the next thing to do is to really hone in on what you want to create in this life. What is your personal mission or vision or direction that you want to go in? Who would you like to become ultimately? Map out this vision for yourself.

    Now, look at the gaps between where you are and where you want to be. What sorts of actions do you need to take, what behaviors can you cut out, in order to be aligned?

    Joe says, “when you’re clear on ‘I want to take another step’, then you’ll start looking, you’ll notice things that you didn’t notice before and you’ll take another little half step towards it.”

    Call yourself out

    Many people want to create a better mindset or a better life, but do not hold themselves accountable or have someone in their life to hold them accountable. This is where Joe works his magic with his clients, “being able to point out those blind spots that you just can’t see”.

    In order to grow, you need to be prepared to acknowledge that you do not see the whole picture and to give someone else explicit permission to challenge you and question you. It’s important to take things personally, and enlisting the help of a friend or a coach is a great way to hold yourself accountable.

    The next step is taking that information and reflecting on it, at the very least on a weekly basis -“when you look at the gaps of people reaching their next level, it’s the awareness first, to reflect on their behaviors…”

    Giveaway!

    Joe is offering one lucky reader (who is about 2-4 years into their entrepreneurial journey with a team of less than 20) a free coaching session to think about the strategic approach in your business as a leader and enabling you to take things to the next level in your business.

    Get in touch with Joe:

    Website or  Linkedin