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Author: Jules Schroeder

  • Millennials, Here’s How To Use Your Age To Your Advantage

    Millennials, Here’s How To Use Your Age To Your Advantage

    As a 28-year-old millennial I often feel old. When I look at the success I’ve had in the last 10 years founding multiple six and seven figure companies, speaking on many international stages, singing and performing spoken word for influential global thought leaders, I’ve realized that my age has never been a factor.

    When I look at how many young people are starting companies or accumulating millions of followers, like 23-year-old viral content creator Julius Dein, or 26-year-old founder of the worldwide fitness program BBG Kayla Itsines, it seems the age of success keeps getting younger.

    It is clear that age is no longer becoming a barrier to entry like how it used to be in our parents generation. Millennials are quickly becoming the majority today, comprising 53% of the workforce, and setting their own standards for success.

    The truth I’ve seen is—the younger you are, the greater the advantage you have in terms of standing out.

    I spoke with one 20-year-old who is living proof of it. Meet Manu Goswami, a serial tech entrepreneur and innovator, UN Youth Ambassador, TEDx speaker, and LinkedIn campus editor. He’s a former Gary Vaynerchuk employee and the COO and co-founder of Dunk, a sports media company with 10M followers across Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat that works with top brands like EA Sports, Nike Basketball, Warner Music, and Gatorade.

    Goswami was awarded the UN’s Outstanding Youth Leadership Award and Plan Canada’s Top 20 Under 20 Award, among other notable titles.

    This week on the Unconventional Life Podcast, Goswami shares about what it takes to create success at an early age and why you’re never too young to launch your career.

    Below, learn some of the ways you can use your age to your advantage.

    1. Successful People Want To Help You Out. “I got a meeting with Gary by emailing him every single day letting him know what I liked about his content that he posted… I bet you he didn’t care what this 19-year-old kid in Toronto thought of his content but he took note of the fact that I was engaging a dialogue and invited me to chat for 15 minutes,” Goswami says.

    Goswami proves you don’t need to be ultra-successful to get a response from influential entrepreneurs and figureheads—you can just be a 19-year-old kid from Toronto who cares. Consider reaching out to those who you look up to and admire, because their insight can be invaluable. Even if they seem out of reach, they may surprise you, and in fact many will likely be willing to speak to you out of desire to help younger millennials

    2. You’re At The Perfect Place To Build Good Habits. Goswami says he swears by a few daily practices to keep his mind in the right shape. First and foremost, start the day with an affirmation of gratitude. Rather than reaching for your smartphone before you get out of bed, like 46% of Americans do, take some time to deliberately check in with yourself and start your day on purpose. Goswami is also a huge fan of yoga, which has been shown to decrease stress and improve brain function.

    3. You’re Directly Connected To Other Millennials. One of the advantages to being a millennial is that you don’t need to guess about what other millennials are currently finding relevant. While corporate companies have to dig for millennial trends and often miss the mark, you’re directly connected to and embedded within a network of other millennials.

    Take a pulse for millennials and aim to stroke a chord of resonance with the collective. Take note of what others are finding interesting or relevant.

    You might also consider striking up an engaging online conversation, like Goswami did with his “Let’s Get Honest Campaign” on LinkedIn, which encouraged millennials to talk openly about their vulnerabilities. “I noticed people were scared to talk about their failures,” he said.

    4. You Have A Built-In Network. While you’re still young, you have access to built-in networking opportunities where meeting people is effortless. Goswami says one of the best places to take advantage of this is college campuses, and the best part is you don’t even need to be a student of the college; Goswami met his co-founder, a non-student, the University of Toronto. Look for an individual who has a complementary skillset to your own and whom you will be able to work well with long-term.

    You might also consider attending events that bring diverse groups of people together in one place. That’s why I created my signature 5-day international business accelerators with my company Unconventional Life—I wanted to provide a space for collaboration.

    5. You Can Provide Value To Others. You can easily create a win-win for someone to share their knowledge with you by offering to expose them to your millennial audience or publishing an article about what they share. Many people will be happy to connect with you because they want to get plugged into an audience of younger people. “Every transaction you go into you should provide as much value as you can. If you see every relationship you’re making in your professional life as a value exchange, you’ll be much better off,” Goswami says.

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    This article originally appeared on Forbes.com

  • 7 Reasons Why Millennial Men Are Reinventing Masculinity

    7 Reasons Why Millennial Men Are Reinventing Masculinity

    A few days ago I was at a co-working house in Nicaragua when the topic of modern masculinity came up. It started over a spear fishing trip that was being organized where several of the men were discussing how they would rather do a yoga intensive than go. One of the girls made a joke of how “macho” they were being when it hit me how the evolution of being a man, especially as a millennial, has shifted.

    Today, Less than a third of men aged 18 to 29 report feeling “completely masculine” compared with 65% of baby boomers. It is not uncommon to see many men choosing a green juice over a beer, meditating instead of watching the news in the morning, or journaling their feelings.

    The masculinity modeled to us by older generations—which held that men shouldn’t express emotion, be sensitive, or show vulnerability—is fading.

    Influential millennial business leaders like New York Times Bestselling Author Lewis Howes are paving the way for this new model. Howes’ upcoming book, The Mask Of Masculinity, suggests that taking off the “masks” men traditionally wear can lead to more success, wealth, and fulfilling relationships.

    This week on the Unconventional Life Podcast, I interviewed a millennial man who shares his perspective on what it means to be a man and why he is doing it differently. Meet Alex Rodriguez, a 24-year-old TEDx speaker and influencer who has reached over 100M viewers online and been featured on Netflix, Hulu, and other major platforms with his brand as well as been vouched for by Tony Robbins. Rodriguez is on a mission to personally impact over 1B lives around the world by awakening them to their true self.

    Below, read up on seven reasons why millennial men are reinventing masculinity.

    1. They Value Self Awareness. While traditional masculinity says “don’t feel,” modern masculinity says “dare to feel.” Millennial men are committed to knowing themselves on a deep and personal level—even if what they find is difficult to confront or conflicting. Rather than hide from or deny who you are, become curious about who you are and have the courage to represent yourself authentically. Rodriguez recommends setting aside deliberate time each day to connect with yourself. “Don’t try to distract yourself and run around all day. You need to spend time with yourself and take care of you,” he says.

    2. They Are Non-Conformist. The rigid gender roles for men and women are becoming more loosely defined as millennials challenge the status quo. According to one international study titled “The Decline of the Manly Man,” the percentage of men who are staying home to care for children is rising today while women are slowly surpassing men in academic performance and closing the income gap. The evolved man isn’t swayed by gender roles or what society deems “manly.” He doesn’t need to be validated externally by conforming. He acts according to his own volition, and he isn’t threatened by women rising, either.

    3. They Don’t Want To Compete With One Another. Instead of trying to gain empty status, the evolved man knows his worth lies within. He is secure within himself to the extent that he doesn’t need to put others down in order to feel better about himself. Rodriguez says, “It’s so important to have an abundant mindset over a competing mindset. Don’t sacrifice treating people right or opt for profit over people because there’s so much out there to receive. When we’re in a competing mindset we are limiting ourselves.”

    4. They Value Authenticity. Millennial men have no need to pretend they’re someone they’re not, because they’re not ashamed of who they really are. You can cultivate authenticity in your life by ensuring your outer self is aligned with your inner self. One Boulder, CO-based movement, called the Authentic Man Program, is dedicated to empowering men in their authenticity so that rewarding interactions are made possible.

    5. The Want To Be Vulnerable. Outdated masculinity says men shouldn’t show any sign of weakness. But modern masculinity embraces vulnerability as an expression of courage. Rodriguez says, “The strongest man today is the most vulnerable. If you’re able to be self aware of what you feel and what you want and you don’t have to fake anything or try to keep up the image that society puts on you… if you are who you are, and you’re able to embrace that, you’re a man.”

    6. They Act According To Their Values. A millennial man follows through on his values. He values his own sense of self above others’ sense of who he is so he honors his commitment to himself first and foremost. Rodriguez says you can get in touch with your values by folding pieces of paper in half with the following sections: needs and wants; strengths and weaknesses; and dreams and reality. Place the paper somewhere visible so you’ll continuously be reminded of it. “Remember to listen to your heart and not just your mind,” Rodriguez encourages.

    7. They Are Motivated To Grow. Evolved men don’t just stop at “evolved.” They are continuously looking for new ways to grow and develop themselves. You can be proactive about your own development by attending education-based events. You will be better able to see your own blind spots in the context of relationships, so considering joining a men’s group or starting your own.

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    This article originally appeared on Forbes.com

  • Fearvana: How Millennials Are Using Fear As A Gateway To Bliss

    Fearvana: How Millennials Are Using Fear As A Gateway To Bliss

    I remember when I graduated college and told my dad instead of getting a “real job” I was going to launch a feather hair extension business. He thought I was out of my mind and was quite angry with me. As someone who had worked on Wall Street his entire life he had always prioritized a steady pay check, consistency and the “safe” choice.

    Years later I discovered he wasn’t angry with me—he was afraid for me. Like so many of his peers, the idea of opting for more stress and uncertainty seemed unnecessary and something to be avoided at all costs.

    I didn’t know it at the time, but my decision to lean into fear and pursue business for myself would be the catalyst for my success. Moreover, a way of operating; a tool in my toolkit that I have exercised ever since.

    What I am referring to is the concept of “Fearvana,” coined by Akshay Nanavati as the method of using fear as a gateway to bliss.

    I find millennials are leading by example, using fear in a different way than our parents did to disrupt industries, create innovative solutions to world problems, and prioritize our own personal development.

    Fearvana is more than just a new way of living it is a book endorsed by His Holiness the Dalai Lama. Fearvana’s author, Akshay Nanavati, is also a nonprofit founder, success coach, speaker, and Marine Corps Veteran.

    Nanavati says the six years he spent in the military forced him to develop an intimate relationship with fear. Stationed in post-9/11 Iraq, Nanavati often confronted the possibility of losing his life.

    In his dance with fear, he found something surprising. According to Nanavati, fear and bliss are actually two sides of the same coin. That is, if we seek to experience bliss, the path leading us there is our fear.

    This week on the Unconventional Life Podcast, Nanavati invites us into the world of Fearvana—that is, what it means to tap into fear as a wellspring of bliss.

    Fear Shows You What’s Worth Fighting For

    Nanavati says we all have a worthy struggle: something in our life that deserves our relentless attention and pursuit. For me, my worthy struggle is my business. The presence of fear is what makes our struggle worth fighting for.

    To motivate yourself to stay on track, you Nanavati recommends you surround yourself with triggers called “spark moments,” whose purpose is to ignite the fighter within you. Think Michael Jordan getting rejected from the varsity basketball team—it stirred up a sense of resilience and rebound in him towards his goal.

    “Imprint your subconscious,” says Nanavati. “Look for sparks to help inspire you to stay on your worthy struggle and surround yourself with them.”

    Stress Is Your Ally

    If you find yourself feeling stressed, don’t interpret this as bad news. Though we live in a culture that considers stress something to be minimized, Nanavati says stress is actually a good thing.

    “Fear, stress, anxiety, that’s a normal part of life and you’re going to experience it and they don’t have to be a negative thing. When you choose to perceive the response of stress as something that can serve you it can translate into something meaningful,” he advises.

    In the same way stress in the body is necessary to build muscle, stress in the realm of the mind and spirit is necessary to build character. Recognize stress as a necessary part of your worthy struggle and an ally in promoting growth.

    According to Kelly McGonigal, a Stanford health psychologist, “Viewing stress as a resource can transform the physiology of fear into the biology of courage.”

    Conserve Your Willpower

    Science tells us willpower is a limited resource—a muscle that can be worked to exhaustion. The more we draw upon it, the less we have to utilize in future challenges.

    Nanavati recommends being strategic with your willpower so that it will be available to you in the decisive moments that you need it.

    Consider “automating” your day to enable you to run on autopilot and minimize the amount of deliberate decisions you need to make. Nanavati uses an app on his phone to establish guided external structure that reminds him what he needs to do and when so he doesn’t draw from his willpower.

    “Every area of my life is systematized to remove thinking as much as possible,” he says. “Then I pick one moment in the day where I’m exercising the entirety of my focus into one activity, because when you do that willpower can be limitless. In at least one endeavor you want to push that willpower muscle and push the limits of possibility and human potential.”

    When you need to dig deep to fight fear because you’re pursuing something significant, maximizing your willpower reserve will help you overcome and outlast.

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  • What Millennial Millionaires Know That The Rest Of Us Don’t (Yet)

    What Millennial Millionaires Know That The Rest Of Us Don’t (Yet)

    I spent the past week with a group of world class entrepreneurs and an olympian gold medalist in rural Iceland. Surrounded by so much talent, I was in awe of how so many individuals are stepping up to lead and create change.

    The rumors about our generation being entitled and lazy are far from the truth.

    Millennials are successful—we make up 23% of the world’s millionaires.

    We’re responsible for founding more businesses than any generation before us, and we’ve played a huge role in shifting the trend towards social impact.

    What’s beneath our success?

    I believe at the root of it is our commitment to turn inward and invest in ourselves while bringing awareness to our environment. Inner work is a key element to outer success. Which is why millennial millionaires like Airbnb’s founders Brian Chesky, Nathan Blecharczyk, and Joe Gebbia credit personal development as a significant factor to their growth.

    Could personal development help propel you towards greater advancement in your career and income?

    I spoke with one millennial who says it can. Meet Sydney Campos, a leading transformation mentor who supports young entrepreneurs with comprehensive holistic wellness, business strategy, and mindset mastery. She’s also a former NYC-agency ad & PR consultant, a certified yoga teacher and reiki energy healer, and an avid traveler who currently calls Ubud, Bali home base.

    This week on the Unconventional Life Podcast, Campos takes us behind-the-scenes of her success.

    Just one year ago, Campos was a typical millennial working as a consultant. She says her income surged when she decided to quit her job and launch her own practice, which, in the last few months alone, has netted $150k.

    Let’s dive into Sydney’s world to see how the millionaire mind thinks.

    You Are Worth What You Think You’re Worth

    Psychologists have long known about the relationship between self-worth and money. What they find with those who tend to have more wealth is that these people also have a high sense of self-worth. In other words, net worth and self worth go hand-in-hand.

    “The amount of money you are able to hold and receive is directly correlated to how you are feeling worthy in your life and the way you value your services. Worthy of receiving on all levels—not just money but worthy of receiving love and healthy, nourishing relationships. All these things that seemingly don’t feel connected to money are actually intrinsically related to the amount of money you are able to receive in your business,” Campos says.

    To increase your sense of self-worth, Campos says it’s important to have self-awareness about the areas in your life where you’re not being a stand for yourself.

    In 2015, 94% of millennials said they made a commitment to personal improvement, and would be willing to spend a significant portion of their income on developing themselves. Are you one of them?

    Honor Your Own Boundaries

    Holding personal boundaries around your time and energy is essential. We often don’t think twice about surrounding ourselves with people who drain us rather than replenish us. But if you’re aspiring to 7-figures, you’ll need to hold a much tighter container around how you give away your time and yourself—time is a precious resource and you need to be resourced to show up fully to your commitments.

    Mark Zuckerberg says, “The question I ask myself most every day is ‘Am I doing the most important thing I could … I can help with, then I’m not going to feel good about how I’m spending my time.”

    For a direct application, ask yourself, “What are the relationships in your life where you’re giving more of yourself than you’re getting in return?” Campos suggests.

    Act In The Face Of Fear

    While 64% of millennials say they can’t see themselves becoming a millionaire, I’d wager they still want to.

    Campos says if she had listened to her self-limiting thoughts, she would have stayed in her old job and would never be earning what she is today.

    “We’ve been conditioned to listen to our first-presenting thought which is usually rooted in a fear, a scarcity, a doubt, an old pattern, an old imprint,” Campos says. “Even if you’re afraid, even if you’re resistant, even if you’re not sure how things are going to work, you take the action anyways.”

    Working for someone else could be an inhibitor to accumulating wealth quickly as a young person. 82% of women making $100k annually are self-made, earning money through direct sales.

    Campos recommends getting out of your comfort zone and into action. Create a concrete plan to save more, launch a business, or get a mentor—anything you know will shatter stagnicity and hold you accountable to your goals.

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    This article originally appeared on Forbes.com

  • Millennials, Don’t Make These 5 Mistakes As A Freelancer

    Millennials, Don’t Make These 5 Mistakes As A Freelancer

    In the world of freelancing, many of us are all too familiar with the pressure to hustle, pay bills, and “make it.”

    I remember a time in my early twenties when I was struggling and would take almost any gig I could get just to make ends meet. On any given day I would be website coding, coaching clients, making marketing funnels, or finding tenants for rental properties.

    Currently, one in three US workers are freelancing, with that number projected to rise to one in two by 2020.

    The flexible hours, no boss or office, and no fixed wage are just a few of the perks that have attracted so many to freelancing. Not to mention, 61% of freelancers say they’re happier now than they were as an employee.

    But freelancing, like anything, has its pitfalls—and it’s essential to be aware of them if you want to succeed.

    That’s why I spoke to an expert about what it takes to be successful as a freelancer. He’s built quite the reputation for himself in a particularly competitive field.

    Meet Jeff Toyne, a Canadian-born composer who has worked on major film productions like Nine Eleven, the new release starring Whoopi Goldberg and Charlie Sheen; DirecTV’s Rogue, My Little Pony The Movie, and various titles for Lifetime, Hallmark, and The Discovery Channel.Toyne is no stranger to the hustle. As a composer, he says he’s interacted with occasionally needing to do what he had to in order to “keep the lights on,” especially before he caught his first big break.

    This week on the Unconventional Life Podcast, Toyne shares strategies for navigating the challenges of freelancing, which, in spite of being risky, can also be incredibly rewarding—because there’s no substitute for doing what you love.

    Below, read Toyne’s 5 mistakes to avoid for playing the field as a freelancer.

    1. Don’t wait until your portfolio is perfect. Toyne says a major stumbling block of his was believing he didn’t have a shot until his demo was flawless. “I had just got out of school, and I was trying to perfect it for these filmmakers. It took me a year before I got in touch with them, and when I finally did they said,’It’s a shame didn’t have your number. We were making a movie but we didn’t have your number so we got someone else to do it,’” Toyne recalls.

    Don’t let opportunities pass you by because you don’t yet feel ready. You might be surprised by someone’s willingness to work with you, even if you don’t have all of your materials the way you’d like them to be. Instead, seize the moment and pursue opportunities that may feel even a few steps out of your league. This approach can actually help you build your portfolio in the process.

    2. Don’t be a snob about the gigs you accept. Let’s face it—with freelancing, you don’t always have your work lined out for you. There’s no built-in sense of security. But that’s part of the thrill.

    Occasionally, you may have to accept jobs that aren’t your first choice, but will help you gain relevant experience and lay the foundation for getting better jobs later on. “Until your big break comes and connects you to this random opportunity, there’s all sorts of things you can do to keep the lights on and work close to what you want to be doing in the meantime,” says Toyne. “It’s possible to do work that may not be the exact job you want to do but it’s in the industry you want to do. It’s a way to keep your skills sharp. There is no ‘path;’ you need to put yourself out there for different opportunities.”

    3. Don’t forget to outsource. Don’t waste your time fumbling with tasks you don’t specialize in. Instead, do some independent contracting of your own, and hire somebody else to do it for you. You’ll become more efficient and have more time to dedicate yourself to your craft.

    Toyne says social media is a headache for him, so he outsources it. “I’m busy writing the music, but I want people to know what I’m doing so I have somebody help me get the word out.

    4. Don’t underestimate the power of relationships. As a freelancer, you might find you’re not directly connected to the people in a project who could really elevate you. For Toyne, he says he’ll spend weeks composing the post-production scores for a film but won’t see the actors or director face-to-face until the red carpet.

    If this is the case, you’ll need to put in extra effort to make yourself known and nurture those connections. Don’t be passive or assume they’ll happen on their own; take initiative. “You want to interact and socialize with the people you’re working with… they are a great source of leads,” Toyne recommends.

    5. Don’t try to do it all alone. It can be invaluable to get in community with others like you. You can learn what others are doing that’s working and potentially collaborate on projects that are mutually beneficial. Plus, as a freelancer, you may be missing the fact that you don’t have built-in coworkers or an office populated with people. Socialization is key, so make sure to join groups and guilds that put you in touch with others like you. Toyne says he’s a member of a composer’s guild and a director’s guild in Canada.

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