From healing heartbreak to building a matchmaking business, writing a bestselling book, and creating manifestation music, Jacqueline Fae is redefining what it means to find love by first learning to love yourself.

What happens when the life you’ve built no longer feels like the life you want to live?

For some, the answer begins with a career change. For others, it means stepping away from a relationship, exploring a new passion, or finally giving themselves permission to become someone they have never been before.

For Jacqueline Fae, those questions have shaped an extraordinary journey through entertainment, personal healing, entrepreneurship, and the pursuit of meaningful love.

Known as Fae the Faerie Matchmaker, Jacqueline is the founder and CEO of Diamond Club Matchmaking and I Deserve Love, an elite matchmaking company dedicated to helping accomplished men and women build extraordinary relationships. She is also a bestselling author, female empowerment advocate, and glow-up coach whose work centers on confidence, self-worth, and creating healthier connections.

But her journey into matchmaking began long before she built her business.

In this episode of Unconventional Life, host Jules Schroeder sits down with Jacqueline to explore the experiences that led her from acting and film production into healing and relationship coaching, the philosophy behind her book Seduce Like a Goddess, and how personal heartbreak inspired an entirely new creative project.

Together, they explore what it means to find love without losing yourself, embrace the different parts of your identity, and create a life that reflects who you are becoming.

From Entertainment to Healing: The Experiences That Changed Jacqueline’s Direction

Jacqueline’s professional journey began in entertainment.

She worked as an actress, produced films, and even performed as a stage hypnotist, entertaining audiences at events such as high school graduations.

Her background also included an interest in psychology, hypnosis, and the more mystical side of personal transformation.

However, becoming a mother approximately nine years before the interview marked a significant turning point.

Jacqueline began studying hypnotherapy after becoming interested in how hypnosis could help people heal trauma and emotional pain.

Then, after someone very close to her passed away, she experienced a period of profound heartbreak.

Rather than knowing how to move forward, she began pursuing certifications and exploring different approaches to healing.

“I was like, ‘Oh my God, how can I heal myself?'” she recalled.

That question became the beginning of a much larger journey.

As Jacqueline began learning how to work through her own pain, she discovered that she wanted to help other people do the same.

She moved into coaching, particularly dating and relationship coaching, and began working with people who wanted to understand themselves better and create healthier relationships.

Then something unexpected happened.

People kept asking her to introduce them to potential partners.

Recognizing the demand, Jacqueline decided to explore professional matchmaking.

She initially worked for another matchmaking company, learning the industry from the inside. However, she became dissatisfied with how the company operated and decided to establish her own business.

Approximately nine years before the interview, she founded her matchmaking company.

Since then, she has expanded the business and hired additional matchmakers.

What began as a personal journey toward healing eventually became a business dedicated to helping other people find love.

Why Finding the Right Person Begins With Understanding Yourself

For Jacqueline, matchmaking is about much more than introducing two people who appear compatible.

During the conversation, Jules brought up a familiar challenge among accomplished singles.

People can be successful in their careers, have meaningful lives, and genuinely want a relationship, yet still struggle to find someone who understands them.

She also described how some people who have worked with matchmakers feel that the process can become too one-dimensional.

A person might look like an excellent match on paper, but that does not necessarily mean the matchmaker understands who they are at a deeper level.

Jacqueline understood that frustration.

Having spent time single in Los Angeles and worked with matchmakers herself, she experienced the process from the client’s perspective.

One of the most important lessons she took away was the value of feedback.

“When you’re on dating apps,” Jacqueline explained, “you don’t ever get the feedback, so you don’t grow.”

In her own matchmaking business, she encourages clients to develop a growth mindset.

Rather than viewing every unsuccessful date as a rejection or a dead end, she believes people should learn from their experiences.

Some things will work. Others will not.

The important part is understanding what those experiences can teach you.

Jacqueline also believes people need to remain open-minded about who they might eventually fall in love with.

Love, she explained, will not necessarily arrive in the package someone expects.

When people become too attached to a particular image of their ideal partner, they can overlook someone who might actually be a wonderful match.

For Jacqueline, successful matchmaking requires a willingness to explore possibilities rather than simply searching for someone who checks every box.

The process becomes less about finding someone who perfectly matches an existing list and more about understanding what kind of relationship would genuinely support the person you are becoming.

Seduce Like a Goddess: The Art of Falling Back in Love With Yourself

At the heart of Jacqueline’s work is a message that extends beyond matchmaking.

It is the belief that people need to develop a relationship with themselves before they can build a healthy relationship with someone else.

This philosophy is central to her bestselling book, Seduce Like a Goddess.

Jules introduced the book as a female empowerment guide focused on confidence, feminine energy, self-worth, and attracting healthy, lasting love.

Jacqueline explained that the book includes rituals designed to help women reconnect with their personal power.

These are not necessarily elaborate or mystical practices.

Instead, they are exercises in self-empowerment.

She believes women sometimes move from one relationship to another because they are afraid of being alone.

And while she acknowledged that she had experienced this herself, she also recognized that it can prevent people from developing the self-love necessary for a healthier partnership.

Her philosophy is that people need to become genuinely comfortable with themselves rather than relying on another person to fill an emotional void.

In her words, the book is about helping women “fall back in self-love with yourself.”

She also approaches this through manifestation and the idea of becoming energetically aligned with the relationship you want.

For Jacqueline, the process begins with learning to value yourself and developing a sense of confidence that does not depend on someone else’s approval.

The goal is not simply to attract a partner.

It is to become someone who can experience love without abandoning themselves in the process.

Reclaiming Feminine Energy Without Performing for Someone Else

The conversation took another interesting turn when Jules brought up the experience of high-performing women.

She described how women who spend much of their lives in achievement-oriented environments can become deeply accustomed to operating in what she called boss-babe energy.

There is a constant focus on producing, achieving, building, and managing.

And while that drive can support professional success, Jules wondered whether it can sometimes leave women disconnected from other aspects of themselves.

Jacqueline related to the experience.

She explained that she had also spent time operating in that energy and had to learn how to reconnect with her feminine side.

That exploration became part of the philosophy behind Seduce Like a Goddess.

Rather than constantly hustling to attract someone, Jacqueline encourages women to reconnect with what she describes as their feminine goddess state.

She believes confidence and attraction can come from developing a stronger relationship with yourself rather than continually trying to prove your worth.

One of the practices she shared was surprisingly simple.

Jacqueline sometimes puts on lingerie or a lace robe and walks around her house simply because it makes her feel good.

She does it for herself.

There does not need to be a man in the room, an audience, or anyone else to appreciate the experience.

The point is to reconnect with her own sensuality and confidence.

It is a small practice, but it illustrates a larger philosophy.

Women do not have to make their confidence, attractiveness, or femininity a performance for someone else.

They can experience those qualities simply because they belong to them.

When Heartbreak Becomes the Beginning of Something New

One of the most personal moments in the interview comes when Jacqueline opens up about her marriage and separation.

She explained that she had been in a relationship for approximately ten years and married for around eight or nine years.

She and her former partner share two children.

Although they separated and divorced, she described them as remaining best friends.

The marriage, she explained, simply stopped working.

However, the emotional experience of separation was difficult.

Jacqueline found herself repeatedly getting back together with her former partner and then breaking up again.

She described the cycle as something that was no longer working.

Rather than continuing to repeat the same experience, she began writing music.

Initially, the songs were simply a way to heal her own heart.

She wanted to create something that could help her process the emotions she was experiencing.

Then, as she continued writing, the project began to take a different direction.

She decided she wanted to create manifestation songs and call in what she described as her divine counterpart.

The music became a creative expression of her desire to heal, reconnect with herself, and eventually experience love again.

What began as a personal project gradually became something she wanted to share with other people.

Her hope was that listeners might experience the same kind of emotional support and love mindset that she was seeking for herself.

Creating a Manifestation Album Without Being a Professional Singer

Jacqueline’s music project is another example of how she approaches personal transformation.

She openly admitted that she is not a professional singer.

But that did not stop her from creating an album.

Instead, she approached the project as an experiment, using technology and collaboration to bring her ideas to life.

She explained that she used the AI music application Suno to help produce the songs.

She wrote the lyrics herself, drawing from her personal experiences and emotional journey.

She also used her own voice, although she joked that it had been heavily auto-tuned.

To develop the music, she worked with an editor and producer.

She also used CapCut to incorporate sound frequencies into the tracks.

The project became particularly interesting when Jacqueline explained where her interest in frequencies came from.

After moving from California to Florida during COVID, she discovered that the house she purchased had black mold.

She became very sick.

During that experience, she visited a healer who performed what Jacqueline described as a voice imprint.

According to Jacqueline, the healer was able to identify issues with her body through her voice and subsequently sent her healing frequencies.

Jacqueline later approached the healer about incorporating those frequencies into her music.

She explained that the healer gave her permission to use them.

The album included what Jacqueline described as dopamine and oxytocin frequencies, which she intended to incorporate into the music to support mood and emotional experiences.

She was working toward releasing the album on Spotify and planned a launch party for February.

For Jacqueline, the goal was not to establish herself as a professional musician.

It was to create something that could help other people experience the kind of healing and love mindset she had been seeking.

Jules connected with that creative process, sharing that she had also produced four music albums.

She understood the experience of taking on creative projects and experimenting with different forms of expression.

The conversation became a reminder that creativity does not always require following a traditional path.

Sometimes, it begins with a personal experience and the willingness to explore what might be possible.

Building a Life That Makes Room for Every Part of You

Jacqueline’s work extends beyond matchmaking and coaching.

She is also interested in astrology, spirituality, metaphysics, and creative expression.

During the interview, Jules connected those different interests to the broader idea of building an unconventional life.

She shared how her own entrepreneurial journey involved bringing together different aspects of herself, including yoga, music, events, companies, and community building.

Rather than treating those interests as unrelated, Jules explained that incorporating them helped her become a greater whole.

She described this as creating a multi-hyphenate or multi-lane empire.

Jacqueline’s career reflects a similar pattern.

Her work includes matchmaking, relationship coaching, writing, female empowerment, music, and astrology.

Those interests are connected by a common theme: helping people understand themselves and create more meaningful relationships with their lives and others.

For Jacqueline, exploring different interests has also become part of her personal transformation.

She explained that her interest in astrology intensified during the previous year, as she navigated the changes in her life after a long-term relationship.

She began studying birth charts and planetary transits more seriously.

She described spending hours learning the subject, sometimes staying up until 2 a.m.

Eventually, she began reading charts for friends and clients.

Her interest in astrology became another avenue for understanding relationships and exploring personal transformation.

Astrology, Spirituality, and the Search for Meaning

Jacqueline explained that she has always been interested in astrology.

She also described having five planets in her ninth house, which she associates with spirituality and metaphysics.

However, her interest became much more intense during the previous year.

As she navigated a new chapter of her life, she began studying astrology more deeply.

She became fascinated with reading charts and understanding planetary transits.

She described the process as learning a complex system that requires time and practice.

Jacqueline also challenged the idea that astrology is simply spiritual speculation.

She explained that, in her view, it involves mathematics and science and requires the ability to understand a complicated language.

She compared learning astrology to learning a foreign language.

The more she studied, the more she became interested in applying it to her own life and the lives of people around her.

For Jacqueline, astrology became another way to explore meaning, relationships, and personal transformation.

It also connects with her broader interest in manifestation and the different modalities people can use to understand themselves.

Grounding in Nature: Finding Your Way Back to Yourself

Despite her interest in metaphysics and spirituality, Jacqueline also shared a simple practice that helps her stay connected to the physical world.

During the rapid-fire round, Jules asked her what she regularly does to support her success.

Jacqueline answered that grounding is particularly helpful for her.

She described herself as someone who is often mentally or spiritually up in outer space.

To reconnect with herself, she goes outside, removes her shoes, and meditates.

She explained that the practice helps her reconnect with Earth and nature.

Jules then introduced the concept of forest bathing.

She described a friend in California who takes people into forests and guides them through the experience of spending time in nature.

Jacqueline responded enthusiastically, saying that it sounded like something she would love to experience.

The exchange offered a practical moment in a conversation otherwise focused heavily on relationships, manifestation, and personal transformation.

It also illustrated how Jacqueline balances her interest in metaphysical concepts with practices that help her reconnect with the physical world.

What Does It Take to Find a Good Match?

Toward the end of the interview, Jules asked Jacqueline what she believes makes a successful relationship.

Jacqueline identified several important ingredients.

First, she emphasized the importance of emotional security.

She discussed attachment styles and specifically mentioned anxious-preoccupied behavior.

In her view, people who approach relationships from a place of anxiety can become overly dependent on their partners.

She described this dynamic as potentially suffocating.

Her point was that people need to develop a sense of security rather than relying on their partners to constantly reassure them.

She also emphasized that both people need to genuinely want the relationship.

A successful match requires mutual desire and willingness.

Finally, Jacqueline encouraged people to remain open-minded.

She used the example of someone insisting that their partner must be six feet tall or meet other highly specific criteria.

Her point was that people sometimes create such narrow expectations that they prevent themselves from considering someone who could be a genuinely good match.

The conversation returned to an earlier theme: people need to be willing to grow.

Finding love is not simply about identifying someone who fits a predetermined checklist.

It also requires understanding yourself, developing emotional security, and remaining open to possibilities you may not have considered.

For Jacqueline, a meaningful relationship begins with two people who are secure in themselves, genuinely want to be together, and are willing to explore what love can look like.

The Unconventional Life Is About Finding What Works for You

When Jules asked Jacqueline what the unconventional life means to her, her answer was straightforward.

She described it as not doing things in a conventional way while still achieving meaningful results.

“We’re all different and we’re not all conventional,” she explained.

For Jacqueline, the unconventional life is about finding what works for you rather than assuming that everyone should follow the same path.

Her own career reflects that philosophy.

She moved from entertainment into healing, coaching, matchmaking, writing, music, and astrology.

Each chapter became an opportunity to explore a different part of herself.

And while those pursuits may not fit neatly into a traditional career trajectory, they are connected by her interest in helping people understand themselves and create meaningful relationships.

The conversation ultimately returns to the idea that people do not have to choose between personal growth, professional success, and creative expression.

They can build a life that makes room for different interests, different experiences, and different versions of themselves.

For Jacqueline, that is what living unconventionally looks like.

Win a Personalized Love Astrology Session With Jacqueline Fae

Jacqueline is offering one lucky Unconventional Life listener a one-hour love astrology session.

During the session, Jacqueline will analyze the winner’s astrological chart and explore upcoming love transits, what may be happening in their relationship, and other relationship-related astrological influences.

Connect with Jacqueline:

• Website: https://diamondclubmatchmaking.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/faerymatchmaker/